In our last episode, we discussed how informative bios can be. After you’ve made the decision to swipe
right, the next focus is your delivery. This can be based on the tone of the bio whether your approach is
silly, calm or super flirty.
Fellas, some of you have been known to come on a little strong. “Hello gorgeous sweetheart sexy Queen I
hope that you have a good day today. You deserve flowers and chocolates. What’s your name again?” I
love me a good compliment, don't get it twisted. However, it is important to ease into the inbox. A
compliment and an emoji works on the walk in. On the flipside, the super laid back approach is
uninspiring. You can’t swipe on my picture then act like you don’t really want me. Find that healthy
medium.
Now ladies, I’m not 100% sure how you approach men. I still need to take surveys on that. Unless there is
something funny on their profile to comment on, my approach is usually a simple “Hey handsome”.
Taking a small detail from a picture as an initial conversation starter works as well. Stroke the ego with
caution. You do not want to set the premise that he is always correct. Trust me, I’ve experienced the
frustrating backfire.
We all are frustrated with a “wyd” in the face a** person. Google some fun facts. I used to make up
scenarios just to see how the person I was speaking to would respond. Example, “Would you let me
practice makeup on you?” Whether you want to know or not, this gives room for funny conversation and
revealing personality traits of the person you’re speaking to. Make something up to pass the time. Fellas,
you should do the same. Refrain from using any hip-hop or sport-takes unless she shows full interest in it.
Ladies, don’t be pressed to show interest in something you really don’t care about. Remember, google can
be your friend when you lose things to talk about.
Timing of replies vary. Sometimes I’m not on the app and my notifications are not on, so I’ll get to a
message later. Keep this in mind when you stumble upon someone who interests you. Also keep in mind
that they may have lost interest. The real test for this is the “I’m not on the app very often. Want to
exchange numbers?”. I feel safer this route as opposed to exchanging social media. However, social
media is a way for them to verify if you are a catfish or not. I find it easier to dubb a person via number
exchange. No trace to my actual life.
After this, it’s a matter of how conversation lasts. It may start off strong and fizzle out. It’s hard to gage
the fade out of conversation sometimes because there are many factors that create it. Personal issues or
entertaining other women/men are the most common reasons. This doesn’t mean that there is a lack of
interest but definitely approach with caution. Sprinkle DM’s seldom until they can give you a real reason
why they disappear. Or not. You can just move on to the next.
I know we skipped over analyzing pictures so we’ll circle back to that next time.
- Cee Flame
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